05-09-2015, 01:28 AM
Before anything else, I'd like to thank you for entrusting us with this information. It takes a lot to entrust something to a bunch of faceless entities on the internet and with that, I commend you.
Ok, Seraph is, in one way or another, like Carn in a way that it represents us in a world much different than our own. Yes, you can say it's some kind of coping mechanism, escapism or whatever nitpicking people will tell you. Here, that doesn't matter. What we know is that Seraph/Carn is an extension of ourselves, to allow ourselves freedom from the limits of the real world. This,however, doesn't in any way help us deal with problems the real world throws at us, right? We simple use them to, honestly, turn our backs against reality and it's harshness. So, what do you think should we do to be able to go over such problems? Even if you say it's too bug to fix, who says anything about fixing problems? Problems can and will leave lives in ruin and there's just no way we can stop these things. That is the truth, sad but arguably true. But, will you allow these problems to storm over you? That is the question.
"So, if we can't fix problems, what should we do?" you ask. Simple. We strengthen ourselves for the coming ones. We may not have been prepared when the previous ones came but at least now we have an idea what life throws at us, correct? Using such trail of thought, we can enforce our foundations and live on. Yes, it sounds like I'm relating it to a storm and all that storms of life cliche but I tell you, that is how it is.
Now, I want you to ask yourself these questions:
"What did I do wrong?"
-one of the greatest flaws of depression is denial, always pointing out that it was someone else's fault, that life could have been better with or without him/her. Pointing a finger and blaming someone is a no no. You may have done something or maybe the lack thereof is the reason. This is not to put yourself down any further but to try and realize the things you should/shouldn't do to avoid repeating the same mistake again.
"What am I doing now?"
-just so you are currently aware of what you are doing at present, do this. This not only stops you from reminiscing past mistakes too much and pulling yourself down further but also to make you aware that "Hey! I'm alive right now. I'm living. I can go on." Yes, not everyone is as blessed, as fortunate and as strong as you are. You're doing good. Live on. March onwards. Rise. Keep going.
"What am I good at?"
-yes, what are you good at exactly? You look like the capable, responsible, caring and patient kind of person, and you're good at roleplaying too! Once you feel your thoughts get heavier, try writing it down and make some sort of plot for an OC character or maybe just apply it to Seraph. Make an adventure out of it! Be creative! Heck, we can like meet IC and do things together. That's it! Let's RP sometime! It'll be fun! Yeah, this'll go under escapism and distraction but since it works, why not? Just don't dwell on it too much.
And finally, "Why am I doing this to myself?"
-yeah, why? We won't judge you, so why go and be so hard to yourself? Just think of it this way "You are the most important thing to yourself." By no way does it mean to be self-centered or selfish, it means that you need to take great care of yourself. I mean, how can you go on if you're too sick to even move now, right? You will be tested, you will be tired and exhausted. When such happens, just rest and stop trying hard. Breathe in and out slowly. Inhale for 5 seconds and exhale for another 5 more, keep doing this for 5 minutes to calm yourself. There's scientific explanation but I won't go there, my brain doesn't have the power to do that. Bottomline is it calms you down enough for you to think clearly. "Don't be too hard on yourself."
Soon, you'll be good enough to laugh it off, I'm positive. Just remember to keep asking yourself these 4 questions everytime you feel down and cold. Yeah, you feel responsible and probably guilty for failing to meet their expectations but such a thing is too much for a single person. That's why you came here. That's why people are replying here. That's why I'm writing this. Life throws things that are too much for a single person, that's why we were blessed with family... friends. So we can carry one another out of these sink holes in life. No matter what happens, keep going. Rise. March onwards. Live on.
Also, if you need anything or got some more questions, you can just PM me or Skype me: "corielith".
If you want to read a book, check some of Styron's work.
Ok, Seraph is, in one way or another, like Carn in a way that it represents us in a world much different than our own. Yes, you can say it's some kind of coping mechanism, escapism or whatever nitpicking people will tell you. Here, that doesn't matter. What we know is that Seraph/Carn is an extension of ourselves, to allow ourselves freedom from the limits of the real world. This,however, doesn't in any way help us deal with problems the real world throws at us, right? We simple use them to, honestly, turn our backs against reality and it's harshness. So, what do you think should we do to be able to go over such problems? Even if you say it's too bug to fix, who says anything about fixing problems? Problems can and will leave lives in ruin and there's just no way we can stop these things. That is the truth, sad but arguably true. But, will you allow these problems to storm over you? That is the question.
"So, if we can't fix problems, what should we do?" you ask. Simple. We strengthen ourselves for the coming ones. We may not have been prepared when the previous ones came but at least now we have an idea what life throws at us, correct? Using such trail of thought, we can enforce our foundations and live on. Yes, it sounds like I'm relating it to a storm and all that storms of life cliche but I tell you, that is how it is.
Now, I want you to ask yourself these questions:
"What did I do wrong?"
-one of the greatest flaws of depression is denial, always pointing out that it was someone else's fault, that life could have been better with or without him/her. Pointing a finger and blaming someone is a no no. You may have done something or maybe the lack thereof is the reason. This is not to put yourself down any further but to try and realize the things you should/shouldn't do to avoid repeating the same mistake again.
"What am I doing now?"
-just so you are currently aware of what you are doing at present, do this. This not only stops you from reminiscing past mistakes too much and pulling yourself down further but also to make you aware that "Hey! I'm alive right now. I'm living. I can go on." Yes, not everyone is as blessed, as fortunate and as strong as you are. You're doing good. Live on. March onwards. Rise. Keep going.
"What am I good at?"
-yes, what are you good at exactly? You look like the capable, responsible, caring and patient kind of person, and you're good at roleplaying too! Once you feel your thoughts get heavier, try writing it down and make some sort of plot for an OC character or maybe just apply it to Seraph. Make an adventure out of it! Be creative! Heck, we can like meet IC and do things together. That's it! Let's RP sometime! It'll be fun! Yeah, this'll go under escapism and distraction but since it works, why not? Just don't dwell on it too much.
And finally, "Why am I doing this to myself?"
-yeah, why? We won't judge you, so why go and be so hard to yourself? Just think of it this way "You are the most important thing to yourself." By no way does it mean to be self-centered or selfish, it means that you need to take great care of yourself. I mean, how can you go on if you're too sick to even move now, right? You will be tested, you will be tired and exhausted. When such happens, just rest and stop trying hard. Breathe in and out slowly. Inhale for 5 seconds and exhale for another 5 more, keep doing this for 5 minutes to calm yourself. There's scientific explanation but I won't go there, my brain doesn't have the power to do that. Bottomline is it calms you down enough for you to think clearly. "Don't be too hard on yourself."
Soon, you'll be good enough to laugh it off, I'm positive. Just remember to keep asking yourself these 4 questions everytime you feel down and cold. Yeah, you feel responsible and probably guilty for failing to meet their expectations but such a thing is too much for a single person. That's why you came here. That's why people are replying here. That's why I'm writing this. Life throws things that are too much for a single person, that's why we were blessed with family... friends. So we can carry one another out of these sink holes in life. No matter what happens, keep going. Rise. March onwards. Live on.
Also, if you need anything or got some more questions, you can just PM me or Skype me: "corielith".
If you want to read a book, check some of Styron's work.
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