No Right Answer (OOC advice thread)

[Gildarts]

I'm not sure if taking advice from a Heartless is a good idea, but I'll throw in my two-cents anyway. (And probably get judged for it.)

For your first question:

That's a difficult one that I think you're putting two queries into one on... Firstly, there is no right answer to life, there is only your answer to life. You make up the story of your life through the challenges you face, the paths you take, and the people you walk with. Just don't regret it and realize that it's usually never too late to try something else.

Secondly, the best you can do is only what you can do. Try not to worry about what's impossible, but have the confidence you need to make it through such tough times. Life's shitty sometimes, and you don't usually get a say in the matter.

As for your second question: your challenges and triumphs have no true value to the life of another, only to you. That's not to say they can't be dealing with the exact same problem as you, but their circumstances leading up to it, and what they become as a result of dealing with it, is all up to them. The best you can do is try and give what advice you can, what support you can offer, and wait to see if they'll make it. If not, then don't blame yourself for their failure. If they do, then congratulate them on their success. It's their life, not yours, and nobody has the right to play the "comparison" game.

Now then, I'm off to write my own self-help book.

This is all appreciated.

I also find I do tend to blame myself.