Didn't want to put this anywhere other than the ooc forum.
We all have our demons and trials that test us in life. Often when I am stuck between a rock and a hard place.... and another rock... and then two more boulders, when I move to make one decision, the other mounds clatter or shatter... In this analogy's sense.
Usually I follow my heart, and it tends to pay off. But I look at the rubble and debris and wonder if it's worth it. Mistakes are supposed to be made. You're not supposed to go dormant in life, as not choosing is also a choice. You're choosing not to live and participate in your life. You're supposed to choose.
The tough choices are the ones that change us as people, but we always get to choose who we want to be. Not everyone will ever approve of how you live your life, not everyone will be my "bestie" and I know it. But it sucks when those closest to you don't respect your decisions, because they deliver you in a different direction than them.
Basically, how do you respond to life when it feels like there is no right choice?
Nothing is going to be 100% the right thing, I know that much, but all the directions are tugging me in fractions and I sometimes feel I'll get ripped apart, or when my future is on the line, that something worse than simply failing will happen. Something much more conclusive than a simple mistake. And I don't mean debt, but in causing others emotional pain, which will always irk me on some level.
You'll probably say "people will get over it eventually" or that mature people forgive, so they'll eventually mature and forgive, or that my family or others shouldn't make me feel this way. But that's life. People hold eternal grudges. Some things aren't forgiven.
Part Two: How do you live with your own success and still watch other people struggle after offering help to them ?
(Part two somewhat regards "when" it is acceptable to cut toxic people from your life.)
We all have our demons and trials that test us in life. Often when I am stuck between a rock and a hard place.... and another rock... and then two more boulders, when I move to make one decision, the other mounds clatter or shatter... In this analogy's sense.
Usually I follow my heart, and it tends to pay off. But I look at the rubble and debris and wonder if it's worth it. Mistakes are supposed to be made. You're not supposed to go dormant in life, as not choosing is also a choice. You're choosing not to live and participate in your life. You're supposed to choose.
The tough choices are the ones that change us as people, but we always get to choose who we want to be. Not everyone will ever approve of how you live your life, not everyone will be my "bestie" and I know it. But it sucks when those closest to you don't respect your decisions, because they deliver you in a different direction than them.
Basically, how do you respond to life when it feels like there is no right choice?
Nothing is going to be 100% the right thing, I know that much, but all the directions are tugging me in fractions and I sometimes feel I'll get ripped apart, or when my future is on the line, that something worse than simply failing will happen. Something much more conclusive than a simple mistake. And I don't mean debt, but in causing others emotional pain, which will always irk me on some level.
You'll probably say "people will get over it eventually" or that mature people forgive, so they'll eventually mature and forgive, or that my family or others shouldn't make me feel this way. But that's life. People hold eternal grudges. Some things aren't forgiven.
Part Two: How do you live with your own success and still watch other people struggle after offering help to them ?
(Part two somewhat regards "when" it is acceptable to cut toxic people from your life.)
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"I have never met a strong person with an easy past." -Atticus