04-02-2017, 04:13 AM
i've only just returned after a year of having gone through some difficult times myself. I won't go in to many details, seeing as this is a public forum, but i can tell you what helped.
Untill you find your own personal reason to go on, without that one thought that makes you want to see the upcoming days you will stay in this downwards spiral. I know this sounds really cliché but talking about it, wether is proffesional or just a close friend, really helps. Finding a way out through alcohol, gaming, drugs or any other form of addiction will only empower it because you don't get to the source of the problem. The best thing is to focus on yourself first, it might sound selfish but before you can even worry about others you have to be in a healthy state of mind yourself first, otherwise you will only end up blaming yourself if anything doesn't go the way you intend them to go. So first things first, find out the root of this depression, something is causing it, wether its your daily routine, something in your past or a person that has hurt you, anything is possible.
Often people are stuck in a mindloop and don't see the problem at hand, they have become blind to the source of it. Thats why having a second person listen to your stories, talking about it, listening to other points of view will reveal the source of it all, and from there you can start your fight back to a normal life. Don't get me wrong, its -NOT- going to be easy. Having someone with you allong the way, to help you stay on the path is almost crucial. It doesn't matter if this is a person behind a screen or a good friend across the street.
But it all comes down to you taking that first step, the first step of talking about the truly deep stuff with someone you trust and really wants to help you.
i'm not sure if any of this makes sense to you, but coming from someone who spend the last year going through some pretty brutal stuff i hope it helps atleast a little bit.
Because people going "You will make it" or "its easy, stop thinking about it" don't know what they are talking about, its not a switch you can simply turn off.
If you ever want to talk, or if i can do anything else, feel free to contact me anytime.
Kanda
Untill you find your own personal reason to go on, without that one thought that makes you want to see the upcoming days you will stay in this downwards spiral. I know this sounds really cliché but talking about it, wether is proffesional or just a close friend, really helps. Finding a way out through alcohol, gaming, drugs or any other form of addiction will only empower it because you don't get to the source of the problem. The best thing is to focus on yourself first, it might sound selfish but before you can even worry about others you have to be in a healthy state of mind yourself first, otherwise you will only end up blaming yourself if anything doesn't go the way you intend them to go. So first things first, find out the root of this depression, something is causing it, wether its your daily routine, something in your past or a person that has hurt you, anything is possible.
Often people are stuck in a mindloop and don't see the problem at hand, they have become blind to the source of it. Thats why having a second person listen to your stories, talking about it, listening to other points of view will reveal the source of it all, and from there you can start your fight back to a normal life. Don't get me wrong, its -NOT- going to be easy. Having someone with you allong the way, to help you stay on the path is almost crucial. It doesn't matter if this is a person behind a screen or a good friend across the street.
But it all comes down to you taking that first step, the first step of talking about the truly deep stuff with someone you trust and really wants to help you.
i'm not sure if any of this makes sense to you, but coming from someone who spend the last year going through some pretty brutal stuff i hope it helps atleast a little bit.
Because people going "You will make it" or "its easy, stop thinking about it" don't know what they are talking about, its not a switch you can simply turn off.
If you ever want to talk, or if i can do anything else, feel free to contact me anytime.
Kanda
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You're naive. We're destroyers, not saviors. - Yu Kanda