10-06-2016, 01:03 PM
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Concerning Novans Update
Concerning Novan Courtship and Romance
With their incredibly literal nature, Novan dating is very straightforward and to the point. Albeit a little more extended compared to humans.
When a Novan man or woman feels interest in another man or woman, they will at first attempt to befriend them. Just a simple friendship, nothing more. After the friendship is solidified, they will then “confess” their interest/feelings through a question along the lines of:
“I think I have feelings for you, beyond just being friends. I was hoping we could hang out more often, to see if this could become a legitimate relationship.”
Obviously the wording, presentation, and tone of the question can vary incredibly depending on a Novan’s situation. The person being asked would either accept or deny the offer, and the two would start to spent most if not all of their free time together as a sort of trial dating experience. During this time no romantic activity has yet to occur, but the relationship does have the chance to evolve into romance. It would be at this point then that the man and woman would begin to act very similarly to human couples, holding hands while walking, kissing, and other displays of affection. However, PDA is a little frowned upon in Novan society, ie their conservative nature about sex and sexuality. In fact, it is not until a couple has become the equivalent of a married couple do they actually start making love for each other, and even then mostly for the sake of producing children. Recreational sex is not very common.
Now, the problems that arise from this system of courtship are similar to what is referred to as “Nice Guy Syndrome” with a lot of men and even women. People will expect their romantic interest to simply fall into their arms because they checked off items on a list, rather than developing a legitimate connection beyond being good friends.
Also, heads of companies will often become devout couples not for the sake of romance but for mutual alliance and for their children to have a large inheritance.
In terms of attractiveness, as far as personality goes the average Novan male would find a level-headed, patient, and intelligent woman to be attractive and would look to them to make long-term relationship decisions. In contrast, the average Novan woman would look for a man that is energetic and bombastic, ready to react to a short problem quickly and to be readily available for when help is needed.
What would be considered unattractive for men is to lose one’s temper quickly or become frustrated easily, whereas with women this is not seen as a big deal. In contrast, women that display an inability to plan ahead or consider future consequences or anticipate future problems are considered to be too simple minded.
In terms of physical appearance, it is impossible to say that any “traditional” appearance can be observed since the Novans are so spread out and individual sub-cultures vary so widely. Many fashions and physical traits are heavily influenced by the environments of colonies or other races that are being interacted with. As such, the most a Novan would look for in someone is decent hygiene and health.
Concerning Novan Courtship and Romance
With their incredibly literal nature, Novan dating is very straightforward and to the point. Albeit a little more extended compared to humans.
When a Novan man or woman feels interest in another man or woman, they will at first attempt to befriend them. Just a simple friendship, nothing more. After the friendship is solidified, they will then “confess” their interest/feelings through a question along the lines of:
“I think I have feelings for you, beyond just being friends. I was hoping we could hang out more often, to see if this could become a legitimate relationship.”
Obviously the wording, presentation, and tone of the question can vary incredibly depending on a Novan’s situation. The person being asked would either accept or deny the offer, and the two would start to spent most if not all of their free time together as a sort of trial dating experience. During this time no romantic activity has yet to occur, but the relationship does have the chance to evolve into romance. It would be at this point then that the man and woman would begin to act very similarly to human couples, holding hands while walking, kissing, and other displays of affection. However, PDA is a little frowned upon in Novan society, ie their conservative nature about sex and sexuality. In fact, it is not until a couple has become the equivalent of a married couple do they actually start making love for each other, and even then mostly for the sake of producing children. Recreational sex is not very common.
Now, the problems that arise from this system of courtship are similar to what is referred to as “Nice Guy Syndrome” with a lot of men and even women. People will expect their romantic interest to simply fall into their arms because they checked off items on a list, rather than developing a legitimate connection beyond being good friends.
Also, heads of companies will often become devout couples not for the sake of romance but for mutual alliance and for their children to have a large inheritance.
In terms of attractiveness, as far as personality goes the average Novan male would find a level-headed, patient, and intelligent woman to be attractive and would look to them to make long-term relationship decisions. In contrast, the average Novan woman would look for a man that is energetic and bombastic, ready to react to a short problem quickly and to be readily available for when help is needed.
What would be considered unattractive for men is to lose one’s temper quickly or become frustrated easily, whereas with women this is not seen as a big deal. In contrast, women that display an inability to plan ahead or consider future consequences or anticipate future problems are considered to be too simple minded.
In terms of physical appearance, it is impossible to say that any “traditional” appearance can be observed since the Novans are so spread out and individual sub-cultures vary so widely. Many fashions and physical traits are heavily influenced by the environments of colonies or other races that are being interacted with. As such, the most a Novan would look for in someone is decent hygiene and health.
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