08-15-2016, 03:33 PM
Firstly, be absolutely certain. How do you know, that she does not know? Did this involve a breach of trust? (I.E, did you open her emails, phone, whatever?) If so, confronting her on it is liable to open a whole other can of worms it really isn't worth getting into.
However, that said, having read back on this thread a little ways ... the relationship sounds as though it has been over for a while, you just haven't ended it. If you are absolutely certain that she has definitely cheated on you, the best thing to do is to (as calmly as you can) inform her that you no longer think you should see one another and walk away from the relationship.
(The rest of this advice is predicated on the fact that she has; if it is merely hearsay then you should confirm with her - in case of 'no' go back to 'is this relationship still something I actually want?' If she owns up to it, then the rest applies).
No explanation she can give will make you feel better, and nothing you can say will change whatever reasons she had for doing it. Given the distance between you, it is probably time to move on. It is painful, it will hurt, but - and this is important - there will be other people and other relationships.
Normally, I'd say talk it out - but frankly, there comes a point where it is more important to distance yourself for your own emotional well-being. If she's begun a relationship with someone else, then to her the relationship with you is already over and done with - she just hasn't done you the courtesy of telling you. The best thing you can do for yourself is to take ownership of that fact and stop investing emotional energy in a failed relationship. If you try to carry on, from here on out there will always be that doubt and betrayal hanging over it - you deserve better than that.
However, that said, having read back on this thread a little ways ... the relationship sounds as though it has been over for a while, you just haven't ended it. If you are absolutely certain that she has definitely cheated on you, the best thing to do is to (as calmly as you can) inform her that you no longer think you should see one another and walk away from the relationship.
(The rest of this advice is predicated on the fact that she has; if it is merely hearsay then you should confirm with her - in case of 'no' go back to 'is this relationship still something I actually want?' If she owns up to it, then the rest applies).
No explanation she can give will make you feel better, and nothing you can say will change whatever reasons she had for doing it. Given the distance between you, it is probably time to move on. It is painful, it will hurt, but - and this is important - there will be other people and other relationships.
Normally, I'd say talk it out - but frankly, there comes a point where it is more important to distance yourself for your own emotional well-being. If she's begun a relationship with someone else, then to her the relationship with you is already over and done with - she just hasn't done you the courtesy of telling you. The best thing you can do for yourself is to take ownership of that fact and stop investing emotional energy in a failed relationship. If you try to carry on, from here on out there will always be that doubt and betrayal hanging over it - you deserve better than that.
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