A totally hypothetical philisophical question

[The Humble Sage]

So.

This is related to some IRL stuff that's been concerning me a little, and I figured I would pick the brain meat of the vast array of more experienced peoples here on the OV.


If I say or do something that is in my opinion, or even objectively uninteresting/unfunny, but someone finds it extremely interesting/funny simply because it was me doing it. Am I an ass for being bothered by this behavior instead of flattered.


Basically, if I say something that isn't funny, you burst out in a fit of giggles and state that it's one of the funniest things you've ever heard. Am I a horrible person for being internally annoyed with you, even if you genuinely think what you do?

(not even getting into the confusion of faking interest, assume that the person's reactions are genuine.)

[Sam]

You define the finety of your own ass.

But I will say your question makes me curious as to what specific angle this happened in? "It kind of depends."/ "is this a repeated behavior?"

Some people will laugh at jokes that aren't funny for societal and social cohesion. Other people just have strange / dark senses of humor. It is also about execution and delivery of a joke, or said thing.

Women will laugh more around a guy they like or find attractive as well.

[The Humble Sage]

It's the last one in this case. I suppose I should have specified more, because you are right that the context matters.

*Edit because I'm still not being specific.

Though I am still interested in the general question, this specific situation is in regards to when someone is attracted to someone else.

[Sam]

It's the last one in this case. I suppose I should have specified more, because you are right that the context matters.

*Edit because I'm still not being specific.

Though I am still interested in the general question, this specific situation is in regards to when someone is attracted to someone else.

Oh. Well I guess certainly take it as a compliment, but I can see getting annoyed. I say dark things and my friends will think I'm kidding and I'm just like "O-oh, yeah, I TOTALLY meant that as a joke" and they think that's funny too. I'm glad my darkness gives them laughter but I kind of crave people to talk about things with seriousness and deep philosophy as well, life ain't a joke... Or is it?


*heh*

Maybe you could see it as a freedom though?

I don't have much of a solution either way.

Women thoughts continued: Are the laughs like, over the top? Do you think maybe she wants your attention too and that's why she's laughing so hard? Maybe she doesn't know what to say, or maybe she's trying to flatter you that you're the one captivating her so much that you're making her laugh and you are worthy of it?

Edit for possible solution: One reason this social science fact of women laughing at a guy's joke might be to emphasize the connection she thinks you share. If you find other ways that can emphasize this that are compatible to both of you, you could stop her from "overdoing it."

What ways? Well I don't know you, her, or the scene, but I would have to say it is case by case. Giving her more attention could either help or hurt it. Feelings are tricky business. Maybe some guys can shed some light on the subject.

"Go ahead drop some knowledge."

V